Marriage Diary: 3 And A Half Years of Marriage

Today marks three and a half years since we married on April 11, 2019. So much has happened since then, everything to do with the Pandemic, lockdown and still staying safe.

We have had our flu vaccinations for 2020 and 2021 as well as the Covid booster but are waiting for the next booster and this year’s flu vaccination.

We enjoyed the day together just relaxing. I am happy we’ve got this far and hope for more years together. There have been, and still are, happy and sad times, but we are together and that’s what counts.

Marriage Diary: Our Third Wedding Anniversary

Last night at midnight, my gift was a kiss and a “happy anniversary” from my husband. Today, our minds have been going back to three years ago. Here’s my post from then:

last year, I wished that this year we didn’t have to celebrate another anniversary in the pandemic.

That’s too much to hope for, but I hope that someday it comes true.

Today, we celebrated with Peruvian takeout and some champagne.

Traditionally the wedding gift for three years is leather. The modern one is crystal. We have some crystal goblets we were given as a wedding gift. Earlier this year, I was talking about this and we said I already have something that is leather: new armrest and legrest covers for my powered wheelchair.

Our gift to eachother was some chocolate, because it’s not what you share, but who you share it with. Life has been keeping us busy recently and have enjoyed our special day.

Thank you to the people who thought of us and sent ecards and wishes.

Marriage Diary: Sixteen Years of Us and Almost Three of Marriage

Today is a very special day, because sixteen years ago, I met my husband Alfredo. Many people want to know the story of how we met. This morning as we woke up, our minds and thoughts went back to when we met and we shared our special memories and others from our time together so far.

Alfredo was living in the apartment we shared with another lady. I immediately liked Alfredo’s welcoming personality and his smile. The way he was prepared to support me with anything and was a great listener too.

I started feeling like I was falling in love day by day, as I felt more comfortable around him. We’d talk and laugh and support each other. I lived with him since January 2006, but we knew we wanted an apartment to ourselves one day.

Two months later, Alfredo took me to square we liked and asked me if I wanted to be his girlfriend. I burst into happy tears and said yes. All my life, I dreamed of falling in love. I couldn’t believe it was happening to me, and that Alfredo had picked me out of anyone else he could have falllen in love with. knew then that he saw past my disabilities.

We got engaged on the night of my 27th birthday in 2008. I was relaxing in bed and Alfredo presented me with a white gold ring with a single diamond. Cue the happy tears again.

We married on the 11th of April 2019 and will celebrate our third wedding anniversary soon.

In the sixteen years we have been together, we have been through happy times and sad. I’m happy that my husband is so giving, kind considerate and caring. He has never judged me because of my disabilities and accepts me for who and how I am. When I am sad, he comforts me, when my Cerebral Palsy, hydrocephalus or visual impairments are giving me a hard time, he’s there. When my eyes are uncomfortable or I have a headache, he makes sure I get enough rest.

He understands why I can’t control my body temperature

On the days when I’m struggling to move or when I’m too exhausted to speak, he does what I need him to do, and knows instantly what I need. When dysarthria makes me just make sounds instead of words, he’s patient, and when I pause he doesn’t finish my sentences like others would do but makes suggestions that make me laugh. When I move my mouth but sounds don’t come out, he tells me he can see how hard I’m trying to talk and if I’m exhausted, he just says relax.

He impresses my doctors with his knowledge of my disabilities and medications and care, and they commend him.

My disabilities don’t scare him. When I explained more about them for the first time, he listened before saying that he didn’t see them as a problem and that he just wanted to be with me.

The first time I told him about my medical history, it made him cry and from then on I knew he was sweet and sensitive, too. He was fascinated by the fact that I was an identical twin and supports me in my sadness when special days come and my sister Natalie can’t share in them. He knows I am living life for her too as she can’t and she is a part of me.

He knows what to do in a medical emergency and does not let anything get the better of him. He makes sure I get the best medical care possible and respects my wishes and does his best to get doctors to as well.

He has seen my Shunt Alert card and the Spanish translation and knows to tell people about my shunts and the emergency timeframe for getting me to a hospital if things go wrong with it (4 hours).

He knows about my symptoms of shunt failure and blockage and about all the surgeries I’ve had. He helps with the side effects I still have from those and says I am beautiful as I am with my scars as they make me me.

He respects me and celebrates me as I am and fights for me.

When I am feeling like things are hard, I draw strength from him.

He’s used to my stretches and massages. He’s used to the fact that my movements will be voluntary in a stiff, shaky and jerky way and that many others will be involuntary. He’s used to my low tolerance for pain and the fact that daily pain is part of how my disabilities affect me.

He’s always there to move me. He knows what I mean when others don’t understand or take the time to listen to me and gives me time to explain what I want, need. or think when others would have given up or lost interest in my conversations.

He’s used to the fact that some words will be better pronounced than others and that I take my time to say what I want. I am a thinker, too.

When I’m struggling with brain fog and fatigue I will sigh more, and just be silent. He knows this is just what I am like and understands that my lack of strength and stamina is part of my disabilities. He knows what I want when I can’t tell him.

He values me.

He’s a wonderful cook and the best person to relax with. He has a cheeky sense of humor and a contagious smile which makes me smile and laugh.

We each know each other so well.

He is a great advocate and always does the best he can for us.

I’m looking forward to many more years together as he’s so special to me. I love the times when he tells me he’s glad I’m alive and with him. People say we are great together. That is something I have always known and I am happy to have a soul mate in life.

We celebrated our day by eating Peruvian takeout.

Marriage Diary: One Month To Go Until Our Third Wedding Anniversary

Today, the first thing my husband Alfredo said when I woke up was “today’s a special day.” He was right. Today, is a big milestone, it’s one month to go until we have been married for three years.

The time has gone so quickly. Today, we enjoyed each other’s company, watched some TV (Friends as I am still addicted to that after I saw my first episode as a teenager).

We also like Bitter Land, a Turkish soap opera. We watched that. We had some wine later on in the day.

I’ll have some more book posts on my blog next week and am drafting my post for the letter “D” in my Disability A-Z blog post series. I have listened to 22 books so far for my Goodreads Challenge 2022 out of a total of 50 and finished a three day writing challenge which I will review.

This month is Occupational Therapy Month and I’m drafting my story for a competition.

This time next month, it really will be a big day: our third wedding anniversary. For now, I’m counting down the days to that.

2 Years and 10 Months of Marriage: and a New Perfume

Today is two years and ten months since Alfredo and I got married. After breakfast, he had his hands behind his back and a smile on his face. “Which one?” he asked. “Right hand,” I said.

What he had in his hand was a perfume. Stylish Girl from the Suddenly range by Lidl. I had picked this perfume based on the description of what it smelled like. Then, I searched online and found it’s actually a perfume dupe (cheaper version) of Good Girl by Carolina Herrera. I have always wanted the original version of this perfume because of the eye-catching stiletto heel packaging but am into dupes too.

More about the perfume in my Sunday with a Sassy Shopaholic post this Sunday.

As always, we had a nice meal (Spanish omelette) plus some wine and just enjoyed the day together.

Our Second Wedding Anniversary

Today is our second wedding anniversary. Two years since we said “I do,” and vowed to love and look after each other whatever life bought our way.

We ate salad, soup and Chicken Tikka Masala and had some wine.

The Twilight Saga films were on and I really like them, we both enjoyed watching them.

In these two years we have been married, we have supported each other whatever we were going through. I have kept on with my writing projects and we have planned things and then had to put them on hold because of the pandemic.

My hope is that next year we don’t have to celebrate another anniversary in the pandemic like we have the last two and that above all we can make our dreams come true. We always make the best we can of what happens and today was a good day.

Sunday with a Sassy Shopaholic: Valentine’s Day 2021

I adore dupes of products and I also love perfumes. On this special day, I was given Essence by Aguamarina (a summer fragrance: I’m not sure what the dupe is yet but I wanted something fresh for summer) and Esplendor (a dupe for Dior’s J’dore). I am really looking forward to reviewing these. They are both by Allure by Suddenly from Lidl and cost 3.99€ each (down 2 euros). The brand Suddenly is one I know of but I have never had any of the Allure perfumes.

In keeping with our tradition from last year, we exchanged chocolate boxes and bought the same chocolates as last year: praline-filled hearts for me and chocolate cherries for Alfredo.

We ate tiramisu for desert.

I hope you have the best Valentine’s Day you can. Sending good wishes to everyone who follows my blog.

Marriage Diary: Our First Wedding Anniversary

Today is our first wedding anniversary. Our big day a year ago  was amazing and has left us both with many memories.

We had lots of plans for how we wanted to celebrate today but the current situation has made us rethink.

Even so it was a relaxing day watching films and I gave Alfredo the first chapter of my novel since this first anniversary is known as the “Paper Anniversary.”

And he loved the gift!

Thanks mum and dad for the card and keepsake hearts.

Thanks family and friends for all  your messages.

We ate a delicious roast dinner and of course there was wine and one of my favourite desserts. tiramisu.

Our First Valentine’s Day as a Married Couple

This year is a special Valentine’s Day post for Alfredo and I, it’s the first one since we got married.

I really enjoyed today, we are able to just enjoy each other’s company. Some wierd things did happen though, including my wheelchair control playing up again.

I’m searching for a new one as I’ve had so many problems with it over the past 2 years (I’ll have had my current electric wheelchair for 4 in July).

Writer’s block is currently hindering my progress on my courses and I’m enjoying a short video series hosted by Gabriela Pereira of DIY MFA. 


I got an email with these quotes in from Sophie Kinsella, author of the Shopaholic series. I have her novel Remember Me. 

The chocolate quote is very fitting since Alfredo and I bought each other a box of chocolates -mine are praline filled chocolate hearts and his were cherry dark chocolates. 

Our greetings were shared in English and Spanish and the day was special with a meal and wine.

Marriage Diary: 6 Months

Today is our 6 month wedding celebration. The last 6 months have flown by and have been a mix of happiness as we started married life together and worry about where to go from there as who knows what the future holds? 

We relaxed in front of the TV and ate a home cooked curry and rice. We did have some wine too as we do on special occasions. 

It was a nice day. Six months until our 1st wedding anniversary in April!  I’m already thinking about anniversary gifts  and ideas for how we could spend the day.