Happy Valentine’s Day!
Everyone wants to be loved by someone. I was no exception to that rule growing up. I’d fantasise about my wedding and about meeting my “The One.” I had a crush on a boy when I was about 7, but he didn’t feel the same. Then, there were a few people I was interested in in the Sixth Form, but I was embarrased to tell them.
I had a few dates when I was at university. One was a blind date and the rest of the time, I’d meet random people at the club on campus (yes, Reading University was fortunate enough to have its own nightclub on the main Whiteknight’s campus). Guys would talk to me, first with some pickup line and then with less interest. The strangest pickup line I heard was “You look intelligent! What are you studying?” I thought we aren’t in a library! OK, I have needed glasses since age 2 as part and parcel of my CP and hydrocephalus.
That guy went to the bathroom and didn’t come back.
The dates continued after I graduated and the blind date I mentioned was one of them. One night, I turned up in Bar Med in Oxford. As always when meeting anyone, I was early. The friend of a friend greeted me, sat down and the conversation was really stilted. He just looked very uncomfortable. Then, he got up and left. Yes, that was it. And that was before we’d even had a drink. That night, the best thing I did was call my dad to come and get me.
From that night on, I vowed to just concentrate on life. A year went by in which I thought about what I wanted to do with my life after university.
Since I spoke my first word of Spanish at age 11, I would dream about meeting my Spanish-speaking stud. My wish came true in 2006 and I’m very glad to say that now, almost 12 years on, we are still going strong! Alfredo is the only guy I have met who accepts me for me, sees past my disabilities and always fights for justice for me in the face of adversity. We have celebrated Valentine’s Day in different ways. There have been romantic films, heart-shaped chocolate waffles and gifts.
My gift this year, body sugar scrubs in Blackcurrant and Caffeine and Orange and Vanilla plus a new electric toothbrush. Body scrubs are an important part of my skincare routine. I’m coming to the end of another one at the moment and can’t wait to review my new ones!
More important than all that, though, what has always been important to me has been the fact that Alfredo chose me to be his partner in love and life, and for that I, and we, are happy. We have been engaged since 2008 and are in a civil partnership. Today, we watched the last episode of Brothers and Sisters again, and it had me thinking about marriage. I have so many ideas for a wedding and it’s hard to settle on just one.
Listening to ebooks is going well this year, and I have been listening to some really great ones recently. See my Valentine’s Day 2018 Listens post here! Don’t forget to follow my book blog and of course this blog too if you aren’t already.
However you are celebrating Valentine’s Day, have a great day!