Yesterday, I started a blog post series about reviews of books with the life of a character with disabilities as their focus and last night we saw You’re Not You. I immediately wanted to see it as I never had before.
The film is about Kate (Hilary Swank) whose marriage is on the rocks. Kate has ALS and starts looking around for a caregiver. Bec (played by Emmy Rossum) a college student, turns up at her house and, after a trial period, gets the job.
From then on, we see Kate’s journey in life and with ALS and the bond between her and Bec. I immediately identified with some parts, the happiness of getting on with someone who cares for you and also the more difficult times when the relationship seems to be in trouble. The film confirms all the good things I know personally about having someone you trust as a caregiver. That it gives security and there’s always someone to talk to. That a bond like this requires trust on both sides.
The film is very “real” as it shows those awkward moments when a new carer starts to work and the difficult task of having to explain what you beed to them and boping they will do their job how you need them to.
It shows how sometimes relationships can be affected and how if the caregiver really does their job well, they will be there for you whatever hapens.
You’re Not You is a very realistic and well-acted film with happy and sad parts. It confirmed what I know about ALS but also taught me more. After Hilary Swank’s role in Million Dollar Baby, which is one of our favourite movies, this shows that she is an incredibly talented actress with a natural flair to make emotional, captivating films.
I was intrigued by Bec’s character and proud of her in her decision to go for the caregiving job. In my experience, that shows she had a very human, giving side and is something I have rarely known students to do in real life because of the responsibility outside university life. I did have a carer myself in the past whose son helped out at a care home so I know some people are more inclined towards wanting to help in this way. I encourage it.
Overall, You’re Not You made an impact on both of us and is well worth a watch.